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(how to) Use the Ha Ha mantra when life is being rough with you!

A mantra is a commonly repeated sound, word or phrase used in meditation to cut through discriminating thoughts so the mind can become clear. In the context of Laughter Yoga, the “ha ha” mantra is an exercise that invites people to voice out loud something that is frustrating or painful in their life, and punctuate each sentence with “ha ha ha.”

In this video you will hear Gita Fendelman, a retired tax attorney who was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease almost a decade ago while still in her 40s, put it into practice. Gita has never taken medication. Instead she chose to laugh daily, meditate, do healing Qi Qong and completely review her emotional life and diet.

This exercise may appear insensitive or even disrespectful to some, but it most definitely isn’t. This is about the affirmation of power over, not submission to what ails you. It is a most powerful exercise because you cannot both laugh about something and hang on to feelings of depression and powerlessness about it at the same time. The ability to laugh about your aches and pains is a sign of maturity and brings great emotional freedom.

50 things I’ve learned in 50 years

I’ve learned

  1. that although the word “love” can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used.
  2. that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
  3. that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
  4. that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
  5. that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
  6. that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
  7. that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
  8. that it’s a lot easier to react than it is to think.
  9. that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings and standing up for what you believe.
  10. that it’s not what happens to people that’s important. It’s what they do about it.
  11. that it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.
  12. that it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
  13. that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.
  14. that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.
  15. that learning to forgive takes practice.
  16. that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.
  17. that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
  18. that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
  19. that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
  20. that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
  21. that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.
  22. that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.
  23. that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.
  24. that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.
  25. that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves get farther in life.
  26. that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
  27. that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
  28. that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you get back up.
  29. that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
  30. that sometimes when my friends fight, I’m forced to choose sides even when I don’t want to.
  31. that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.
  32. that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us.
  33. that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.
  34. that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.
  35. that there are people who love you dearly, but just don’t know how to show it.
  36. that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
  37. that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
  38. that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
  39. that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
  40. that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.
  41. that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
  42. that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something.
  43. that you can keep going long after you think you can’t.
  44. that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
  45. that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
  46. that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.
  47. that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
  48. that you shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do but to the best you can do.
  49. that your family won’t always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren’t related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren’t biological.
  50. that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.